trigger warnings: i take accountability for the fact that i have not done tws in the past. i will from now on be conscious of putting "tw: [content that may be triggering]" before posts that i think need that. i will also put those into the tags for use w/ things like savior. please let me know a preferred system for you/tw's that i do not do that you need and/or want.
Here are some open-ended questions that the [I’m]Possible crew thought up for folks to respond to. Respond to as many as you want in whatever length you want; we’re looking for folks to share their story and will include responses in the zine. All responses are anonymous.
tw: triggering/transphobic language
how do i get people to stop calling the “student exchange” (campus convenience store) a shortened name of “s.exchange”
all i’ve ever been able to do it stare, pause for too long of a time, push my yelling internal self aside, and mask up to respond.
Oh wow oh wow oh wow. There are a lot of videos and I don’t really have time right now because homework but omg this project is great.
VISIBILITY PROJECT REPRESENT!
check out the website at and see if they’re gonna be in your area or if there’s anything to volunteer for. I met one of the main folks who work on this and they’re good people
This is kind of complicated to explain, so I shall try my best.
It’s easiest to do this on Firefox or Safari- for Safari, you’ll need to turn the developer’s option on (by going to preferences, then advanced options, then checking the box at the bottom). For Firefox, you need to download firebug.
Go on to ‘Edit my Profile’ and right-click on the gender field, and select ‘Inspect Element’.
A new window will open with a bunch of coding. Right-click on the line that is highlighted, and select ‘Edit as html’.
I had female selected on my facebook, so I then copied the ‘<option value=”2”>Male</option>’ section of the code, and pasted it straight after itself.
In this new pasted section, change the ‘2’ to a ‘0’, and change ‘Male’ to whatever you want (it doesn’t matter what you change it to because it will just come up as Select Gender’).
After this, exit the Inspect Element window, select this new gender field, and save the profile changes. It should come up with ‘Select gender’, and facebook will use they/their etc as pronouns.
Any problems, don’t hesitate to ask.
I took great advantage in this, very happy!
just did this on facebook. downloaded safari for free from the mac website and it was pretty simple. hope this helps
didn’t work for me but hopefully it does for other folx. tried firefox, chrome, and mozilla… there are slight differences for each of those, google searching for the specific browser brings up the nuances.
No longer complacent with being addressed/referred to/identified as “man” by complete strangers. Mostly from those who are often masculine, white, privileged presenting. Nahhhhh.
tw/content warning: violence, hate crime, trans* identity
The stepfather and sister of a transgender woman stabbed to death at a Northeast D.C. bus stop last February are inviting members of the LGBT community to participate in a memorial remembrance for Deoni Jones on Saturday, Feb. 2, to commemorate the anniversary of her death.
The memorial was scheduled to take place four days after a D.C. Superior Court judge ordered a 56-year-old man arrested for the murder last Feb. 10 transferred from jail, where he was awaiting trial, to St. Elizabeth’s Hospital for mental observation.
Jones’ family members, who refer to her by her birth name JaParker, told more than 200 people who turned out for a vigil at the site of the murder days after the incident took place that they fully accepted her as a transgender woman and treated her as a cherished member of the family.
“We want to have this event to not only honor JaParker, but to also shine light on the fact that so often members of our society who are GLBT face violence in their daily lives simply because of who they are, and that as a civilized society we will not tolerate violence against the GLBT community,” said Alvin Bethea, Jones’ stepfather.
“At this memorial we will have prayer, songs, and statements from the community,” Bethea said in an email to the Blade.
He said Jones’ sister, JuDean Jones, and other family members and friends were helping to organize the memorial.
The event is scheduled to take place at 4:30 p.m., Saturday, Feb. 2, at East Capitol Street and Sycamore Street, N.E., at the site of the Metro bus stop where police say Jones was stabbed while sitting on a bench waiting for a bus.
Through the help of witnesses and nearby residents, D.C. police charged then 55-year-old Gary Niles Montgomery with second-degree murder while armed in connection with Jones’ death eight days after the murder took place. In November, a D.C. Superior Court grand jury indicted Montgomery on a charge of first-degree murder while armed.
Until the time of his transfer this week to St. Elizabeth’s Hospital, he had been held in jail without bond since the time of his arrest in February 2012.
A police arrest affidavit says a video surveillance camera that recorded the murder shows a male assailant taking Jones’ purse immediately after stabbing her in the face. The affidavit says witnesses identified the person in the video as Montgomery.
Although the taking of the purse indicates the motive of the attack was robbery, police said they have not ruled out the possibility that Jones was targeted because of her status as a transgender person.
However, Bethea told the Blade that he and his family believe Jones’ murder was a hate crime and that police and prosecutors should have classified it as a hate crime, which would give a judge authority to hand down a more stringent or “enhanced” sentence if Montgomery is convicted.
“We believe that it is clear in the video footage of this murder that the elements of a hate crime are present and that hate crime enhancement papers should be served upon this individual,” Bethea said in an email.
He said the family has urged the U.S. Attorney’s office, which is prosecuting the case, to list the murder as a hate crime.
“[W]e are considering filing a complaint with the Department of Justice Civil Rights Division seeking redress of [this] error,” Bethea said in his email.
According to court records, on March 23, Montgomery was declared competent to stand trial following a court-ordered mental evaluation. He pleaded not guilty on Nov. 9, two days after the grand jury indicted him on the first-degree murder while armed charge. During a court hearing on Nov. 30, Superior Court Judge Robert E. Morin scheduled a trial date for June 10.
Court records show that questions surrounding Montgomery’s mental health surfaced in January, prompting Morin to order “24 hour forensic screening” for Montgomery “based on the representations of defense counsel.”
During a court hearing on Tuesday, Morin ordered that Montgomery be transferred to St. Elizabeth’s to undergo a “full competency examination” at the recommendation of a psychiatrist, court records show. The records show Morin vacated the June 10 trial date and scheduled a follow-up mental observation hearing for April 5 to assess Montgomery’s ability to stand trial.
Court records show that at a previous hearing Morin denied at least two requests by Montgomery’s attorneys that he be released from jail while awaiting trial. Prosecutors with the U.S. Attorney’s office opposed the requests for Montgomery’s release.
William Miller, a spokesperson for the U.S. Attorney’s office, said the office doesn’t comment on pending criminal cases.
I want to be with you. I wanna go live in a house together. Invite Alyssa and mike to come w dogs and cats in tow. I wanna have a queer commune collective resources sex-gender-body-skill trades. I wanna sleep in a different soft or hard place every night tempered with love. I wanna invite all travelers and displaced folx a place to rest their spirit soul and head. I wanna share toys partners stories loves cultures foods friends non secrets. I wanna have different levels balconies pools skate areas play areas all with elevators escalators alarms with lights sounds and vibrations. I wanna have a haven and hard conversations and work to struggle through together. I wanna be real about my wants needs capacity strengths weaknesses process. I wanna invite family over to weave a patch onto our quilt borne of love pain experience vulnerability in/visibility pressure force. I wanna break bread nori beans bottles boundaries walls borders with y’all. I wanna listen and not respond. Feel you in my core. Spread spirit throughout the space. Engage differently and constantly every day. Give all I want and got and keep some for me too. Love loving my body gender people roots nests flight leaves feathers pieces shattered and together. I wanna set cruise control on long road trips with hard conversations and through new grounds always. I want to recognize the way our mind bodies and spirits are colonized and settled in. I want to reclaim that and disclaim ownership over property land and other people’s emotions. I wanna get past “this stuff” and jump right in. I want both and. I want me. I want to be seen when I am unsure. I wanna see your energy and aura. I wanna call out privilege and appropriation and violence in my self others and our space. I wanna rainbow composed of different size color body ability sound senses feelings.Tru 사랑
tw: talking about bodies and parts and chests and hair
convo btwn me and my family member A with family member B present
A: [walks into room massaging newly augmented chest, per drs orders]
me: [takes cue and start massaging my chest]
A: see, you still have boobs to do that with! yours were always bigger than mine! that and your hair!
me: [smiles and continues massaging chest while whipping aroud newly shaven and bleached hair mane]
A: but then you cut it all off! you removed it!
me (in my head): i want to remove lots of things…
A: god will bless me in another life. but for now…
[both continue massaging respective chests]
“Our fears about stigma, pathologization, forced institutionalization and other enhanced controls, should be framed in relation to the systems of state power that implement those controls. Many people will have choices over whether or not to identify with GID, the DSM and then how to access treatment. It is in the context of state definitional and distributive systems that people will not have those choices when prisons, jails, Medicaid agencies, homeless services, and children’s services enforce and withhold diagnoses and care.”
Dean Spade, Mutilating Gender
re: all the times that people tell me I can “just be honest” or that I am “over-analyzing” things.
I’m not politically correct, I am Political.
do we call babies “it” til the ultrasound “reveals” its genitals (which is extrapolated to its “sex” and used to apply a gender)?
can we not conceive of babies as human beings until they are assigned a gender? and instead have to refer to them with the same pronouns as are used for inanimate objects?
i may or may not be watching juno with my mother right now.