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Ari Wow. 21. Queer. Mixed. Prefer to be referred to as: "Ari."
N. Virginia born, NoVA&Cali raised.
Into Feelings&Thoughts.

trigger warnings: i take accountability for the fact that i have not done tws in the past. i will from now on be conscious of putting "tw: [content that may be triggering]" before posts that i think need that. i will also put those into the tags for use w/ things like savior. please let me know a preferred system for you/tw's that i do not do that you need and/or want.

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MRR: What does it take to be good trans allies?

DS: Good trans allies do more than use the right terms or come to a drag show. Being a good trans ally, like being a good activist in general, involves thinking personally about ideas and applying them to your own life in an intimate way. It means being as invested in transliberation as you think a trans person is, and working as closely to uncover how you participate in gender regulation as you can. So much of gender policing occurs in ways that seem trivial or personal, and it requires each of us to really take apart our minds and find the locations of these norms in order to create safe spaces for new gender actualizations to thrive.

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-Dean Spade (from this interview)

being invested in a non-colonizing way. yes.

(Source: picnic-lightning, via eliintransit)

"What I hope that love is—whether platonic, romantic, familial, or communal—is the sincere wish that another person have what they need to be whole and develop themselves to their best capacity for joy or whatever fulfillment they’re seeking."

Dean Spade

via Make zine

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Dean Spade fan blogging all night long

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Dang.

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been really feeling my whole-ness and my absence and my existence so hard lately. thank you Dean Spade.

from “For Lovers and Fighters” by Dean Spade

LINK for Reading

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Stop Incarceration for Profit in Your State

If you live in one of 48 states, right now there’s a proposal sitting on your governor’s desk from a company called Corrections Corporation of America (CCA). That for-profit corporation is offering to buy and run prisons across the nation. In exchange, states must agree to keep the prisons at least 90 percent full. Two articles in  USA Today examine the ethical concerns raised by the proposal.

America already has a problem with mass incarceration, and handing over our prisons to corporations that profit from keeping them full will only make it worse — not to mention turn the priorities of the corrections system upside down.

(Source: sarahlee310, via wanderblog)

"One therapist said to me, ‘You’re really intellectualizing this, we need to get to the root of why you feel you should get your breasts removed, how long have you felt this way?’ Does realness reside in the length of time a desire exists? Are women who seek breast enhancement required to answer these questions? Am I supposed to be able to separate my political convictions about gender, my knowledge of the violence of gender rigidity that has been a part of my life and the lives of everyone I care about, from my real ‘feelings’ about what it means to occupy my gendered body? How could I begin to think about my chest without thinking about cultural advantage?"

Dean Spade, Mutilating Gender

re: all the times that people tell me I can “just be honest” or that I am “over-analyzing” things.

I’m not politically correct, I am Political.

i cannot

sit here and talk to people about writing things concerning gender.

while people use the words “gender” and “sex” interchangeably and use terms such as “biologically female” and and and.

maybe we should do an entire newsletter issue on pronouns and gender identity and just put a whole lot of dean spade in there. (ih8groupprojects)